And 4 Steps You Can Take Right Now to Embark on Your Transformational Journey
Undoubtedly, change is never easy but remaining in unhealthy patterns of behavior is not sustainable for the long-term. Furthermore, resigning yourself to a life half-lived is no way to exist. Deciding to embark on a transformational journey is never an easy decision. Therefore, as we begin the New Year, it is a great time to evaluate if 2022 will be a transformative year for you.
First, let’s define what transformation really is and what it’s not. Transformation isn’t about changing who you are, it’s about getting back to the CORE of who you are and who you were MEANT TO BE before life’s experiences created fear and doubt within you.
Deciding to embark on a transformational journey resides in the small steps, not just the big life changing actions. Transformation can be finally deciding to work on the creative passion project you’ve put on hold for so many years. It can be deciding to take that training necessary to enhance your resume. It could mean applying for that job NOW even though small seeds of doubt are still lingering. In addition to these actions, it can also be taking steps to figure out why you’ve been holding yourself back for so long by engaging with a coach or a therapist.
Your life is a journey to (re)become more of who you truly are.
It’s important to recognize, you already possess the skills and abilities to be the best you. At your core, you are loved with unlimited potential and a pure heart. At the same time, life events and the people around you have influenced you to become timid or scared. Therefore, these circumstances made you believe lies about yourself – that you are unworthy, unable to achieve success, or powerless in creating the life of your dreams. For these reasons, this is what you MUST change. By doing the work, you will be able to remove the negative thought patterns and transform yourself back into the authentic person you truly are.
Can people change?
Unquestionably, everyone experiences hundreds, maybe thousands, of catalysts for change throughout their lifetime. The real question becomes: How can people avoid changing? Change is in our nature. It is in the biology of our cells. As illustrated by the fact that you have already changed so much in your lifetime and will continue to change. Your physical body is in a constant state of change from the moment you were born. Also in the state of constant evolution are your opinions, your surroundings, the people you associate with, and your profession. You have changed your thoughts and the way you perceive people and events. With each phase of your life, you have experienced a tremendous amount of change.
“You and I possess within ourselves – at every moment of our lives, under all circumstances, the power to transform the quality of our lives. Knowing that is what the work is all about.” Werner Erhard
The act of simply living requires transformation.
Without a doubt, all life forms are non-exempt – it is our true nature. Just as it is in nature, when movement stops, life stops. Pain is a result of trying to halt this evolution. Hence, many people suffer in the resistance without realizing that transformation is our natural state. There is no reason you cannot find your way back to your true self NOW and experience the miraculous transformation for which you have been longing.
During a transformative time in my life …
I was feeling stuck in a life that was patched together by my pain, fears, and unfulfilled ambitions. At the same time, there was an undeniable knowing that I had created this reality and it was built on a faulty foundation of conscious and unconscious bad choices and disempowering thoughts. I wasn’t entirely sure how I got there or what I needed to do to get out.
I was feeling hopelessly stuck, unable to make a move without hurting myself, or hurting someone else. In fact, there’s a sharp pain in your gut, an ache, a knowing, when you know it’s time to make a big change. Subsequently, you can either ignore that ache until it returns (because it WILL return) or you can take the opportunity to answer the calling your intuition has been signaling to you. During this time, I embodied every one of the warning signs below. There’s no shame in acknowledging where you are. There is POWER in recognizing the need for transformation.
Here are 8 Warning Signs You Are in Need of a Transformation
- You have persistently low energy levels. In contrast to feeling like you don’t want to do anything for just a day or two, your energy levels have been low for quite some time. You may have momentary spurts of energy, but this quickly fades and you’re back to feeling listless.
- You feel numb. Low energy’s cousin is feeling numb. You have a hard time feeling strong emotions of happiness or even sorrow. You may even seek out numbing agents to avoid strong feelings.
- You’ve put your personal development on hold. You might have even thought, “what’s the point?”. When we are in a healthy mindset, we should always be striving to improve our personal effectiveness in some way. When we stop growing, we stop living life to its fullest.
- You remain in toxic environment (or more concerning – you seek them out). This is a HUGE sign you’re in need of a transformation. And maybe you’re just trying to feel a little something, if one of your symptoms is feeling numb. However, being in a toxic environment is the exact opposite of a transformation – it’s a regression.
- You solely focus on survival. Listen, COVID-19 had a lot of us, for a long period of time, focusing on survival. We need to make sure we have the basics covered in our lives. But now we’re almost 2 years into this crazy new world, and it’s time to add in a little focus on THRIVING.
- Old or new compulsive and/or addictive behaviors are emerging. Have some old reliable coping mechanisms reemerged lately? When we delay feeling our feelings and pushing down our desires, we tend to need numbing agents to ease the discomfort. We use food, or alcohol, online shopping, or potentially a dozen other behaviors to help us feel better. The truth is, they only work for a very short period of time before the feelings show up again in full force.
- “There has to be more to life” is a thought that recycles in your mind. At times, it’s a whisper. But if that whisper goes unanswered, it turns into a loud roar. The fact is, there is more to life than living an unsatisfying one. The key is to start to figure out what that means for you.
- You experience unending stress and anxiety. If the stress and anxiety don’t go away and it has reached extreme levels, it’s time to assess the source of the pain and do everything (and I mean everything) you can, to start to undo this dynamic. Recognize it won’t go away on its own. It’s important to understand when a medical intervention is required to help you manage your stress and anxiety. Check out this article for more information: At What Level of Stress Do I Need to See a Doctor? | Mercy Health Blog
4 Steps You Can Take TODAY!!
1. Ask yourself some challenging questions. Journal the answers
- What’s working in my life right now?
- The areas in my life I feel most challenged by are…
- What is one change I can make today to greatly improve the quality of my life?
- What would my ideal day be? (Write what you would do from the moment you woke up until you go to bed. Who’s with you, what are you doing? Etc)
2. Take small steps
We tend to overwhelm ourselves (me included) when we’re desperate for life solutions. Instead of making plans to take small actions every day, we set intentions for a massive and immediate overhaul – which usually ends in disappointment. That kind of change is impossible to make without methodical progress. Think about what you can do consistently every day, perhaps just for 15-30 minutes per day. These small actions over time will pay big dividends.
3. Find people who support you
We all need to find our “people”. Those who are in our corners and support us. They also don’t try to solve our problems for us. They are good listeners and at most may gently point us in a direction that for our best and highest good.
4. Find a role model
There are probably tons of examples of people around you who have gone through similar changes and challenges and who have transformed their lives. Absolutely, look to them for inspiration. Not only that, if you feel comfortable, have a conversation with them and ask them about their experiences. Most people love to talk about how they’ve conquered the challenges they’ve faced.
Are you ready to embark on your own Transformational Journey?
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